Important Things Not to do when raising children

Raising a child is an awesome responsibility. Once you are a parent it becomes apparent how ill equipped you really are, and all you want is be the best parent you can be. I have done some research on some BIG (and I mean BIG) things of what not to do. So often you read about what to do, this once I want to focus the things you should not do to make sure that your family life remains as perfect as it should.


First of all you must appreciate the fact that children are innocent and they are immature. They are not able to understand if their parents pay more attention to any one out of them. As parents it is important to pay attention to all of your kids. Lack of attention may be destructive for the kids. You should not create this favoritism. The squeaky wheel gets the grease but don’t forget the one that runs perfectly without question. Ignoring that wheel will quickly create problems.



Secondly, do not discourage your kids – let me repeat do not dishearten your kids. Give them opportunities to excel, experiment and success. In the end they will be better kids and you will be the best parent you can be. For example, my cousin will not sing out loud to this day because her mom told her she could not carry a tune in a bucket. I know my aunt did not mean that “silly” comment to have the lasting effects it had, but it did. Help them to become more confident. If your kids will feel that you are genuinely interested in their lives they will actually feel at home with you and will be more cooperative. They will start talking to you and they will share their thoughts, hopes, fears, and dreams with you. That is the end goal to being the finest parent you can be.


Lastly, you may have very good reason for criticizing your kids about something because you think you are being realistic, but think about it from your child’s point of view. They may not be able to appreciate this. They may not be able to take it positively. If they are doing something wrong, discuss it with them. Tell them to correct themselves but in a way which is not insulting to them. Kids at any age are very sensitive. They are over emotional. Treat them with love and care, other wise they will start reacting in a negative way. You should not punish them for little mistakes, help them learn from them and move on. The best way to go about it is to talk to them. Discuss the problem with them. Half of the problem will be solved automatically if you make them believe that you are there to listen to them. Not doing all these above mentioned things will ensure you can be the parent you have always wanted to be.


You must give your family all due importance as this is the unit which helps you learn the most. This is the family unit which helps in molding your personality. These people are very important. Thus you should be careful about the way you behave with your family.

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